I, Will, take you, Lynn, to be my wife. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honour you all the days of my life.
The old joke goes….”What do you get when you play a country music song in reverse? You get your hunting dog back, your find your favorite pocketknife, you don’t get divorced and your truck doesn’t break down.” 2018 has been that kind of year for us. While Lenny wasn’t exactly a “huntin” dog, he was loved and we lost him in February. In July, after a protracted illness and 2 1/2 year decline, we lost Lynn’s dad, Jim. In July we said goodbye to a home we lived in for 31 years. Two weeks ago we lost Lynn’s mother, Theresa, who had been suffering with Alzheimer’s for a while. It’s been quite the year.
For the past 3 years Lynn was on-call to take care of her parents. Her brothers and sisters were there as well and believe you me, it took all of them. I could go on and on about the countless doctors appointments, hospital visits and late night calls that Lynn had to respond to at a minutes notice. The road from our house to Morningside Assisted Living was well-worn. I’m sure her brothers and sisters could say the same.
If I feel bad, I know Lynn feels double bad. Lenny was her dog and it was her parents that passed. Yet as I sit here tapping on the computer and listening to Christmas songs, she is 6 feet away from me preparing a delicious potato soup while dancing and singing along with music. The resiliency of the human spirit personified,
After Lynn’s mom passed, we went to Morningside to clear out her room. Nurses and LPN’s dropped by to express their condolences; but it was more than that. You could see the respect and admiration they had for Lynn and her siblings. It was as if they were paying homage to their dedication and love for their parents.
Leaving our house on Camrose Road actually took place just before her father passing. It was not something we had planned on doing but the real estate “iron” was hot, so with the help of my friend, Dave, we did it. As you most know it was a tough thing to leave that house and the history we had there. It would have been a tough thing to do on normal terms , but to do it while Lynn’ parents were fading increased the degree of difficulty to a whole new level.
So here we sit with the passing of loved ones and moving in our rear view mirror. Lynn’s now singing along with Alan Parson’s “Eye in the Sky” while tapping on her phone.
In our 2018 rear view mirror there is also a trip to Hawaii to see Andy and a new house. You see in between the sorrow there were moments of joy.
In a few weeks, on December 23rd, Lynn and I will celebrate forty one years of marriage. In the good times and the bad. Yet even within the “bad,” I saw the best that humanity has to offer in my wife, Lynn. The patience and dedication she had towards her parents was nothing short of remarkable. I truly married up.
I will love you and honour you all the days of my life.